I ask people if they want to sing and they say no. What do I do?
Invite, don’t ask. Try saying, “Let’s sing some songs,” or “It’s time to sing,” or “Let’s have some music!”
I play music in the background all day. Isn’t that enough?
No! The goal is to use music to connect. A music session is about participation and engagement.
Sometimes I just need a break. Can’t people sing along with the CD on their own?
Yes, you can use my CD (or others) to provide an independent activity. But keep in mind that people with dementia often have a hard time beginning. Help them get started by singing with you, and then come back occasionally for a few lines, and show enthusiasm and encouragement.
They don’t seem like they are even listening. What do I do?
Respect personal space, but try to make eye contact and smile. Play and/or sing “My Bonnie Lies Over the Ocean.” Kneel down so you can look up into someone’s eyes. Offer your hands so you can share a gentle side to side movement in time to the music. Holding hands, swaying, eye contact and this particular song seem to be a magical combination. (Note this song is on my CD and is also available as a free download in the Resource Library on my website. My gift to you.)